For a lot of people, saying no to other peoples requests is a very difficult thing. I call this the “Golden Retriever Affect”. You want to make sure that everyone around you is happy, so you say yes to every request that is made of you.
By the end of the day, or the week, you feel so overwhelmed and stressed out, due to all of the new commitments, that you can’t seem to get anything started, and you feel like giving up, because there is no way to get everything done, and certainly not done correctly!
Overcommitting is one of the biggest reasons that we get stuck, and are not able to move forward on what really needs to be completed. So, how do we learn to say no?
Well, politely of course. A simple, “I am sorry, but my current work load, does not give me the time to handle this project and complete what I have already committed to.” will normally do the trick, and almost everyone will understand that, since they are probably overcommitted as well.
By not taking on more then you can handle, you will reduce your stress, and be able to complete your tasks, making you less anxious and happier. Taking care of your happiness first will allow you to help others later.
I wish you success!
Are you busy from the time you wake up until you go to bed, if you go to bed? Yet tasks never seem to get completed. Don’t give up on a task until you have seen it to completion. Finished with the client proposal, then send it to the client, or print it out for your upcoming meeting.
Start tracking what you work on each day, and what excuses you use for not completing them.
“I kept getting interrupted”: Prevent interruptions, close your office door, turn off the ringer on you phone, make yourself unavailable.
“There is not enough time to finish”: Start reviewing your schedule, chances are you are overbooking yourself, if most tasks are not completed because you don’t have time, you need to cut back and be realistic.
“I’m just to tired to finish”: Again you are probably, overbooked, trying to do to much and not giving yourself enough time to rest and recharge. You really do need to sleep!
“I just don’t feel like doing it”: Ah motivation. When you are tracking what you work on, pay attention to what parts of the day you get the most done. Plan on completing tasks during this part, or parts, of the day.
I wish you success!
For each new commitment you make, give up an old one. If you agree to coach your child’s little league team, give up the school fund-raising committee. ADDers tend to spread themselves too thin, which leads to our old friend, the overwhelmed feeling.